It is normal to have fought and feel angry in a relationship, especially when you are living together and trying to raise a family. But it is the way that you and your husband both behave in those fights that will really affect your life together.
If you have been struggling with figuring out the best way to react in a middle of a fight when your partner is angry with you, then we recommend reading what advice we have to offer you in the following article. And later you can decide if these are the right methods to use in the middle of a fight.
How to react when your husband is angry with you?
Do not try to control his anger
We, as much as we want to, are not able to control the emotions of other people around us. This is what you should remember next time when your husband is angry with you. When a person is feeling deep anger, for whatever the reason might be, the last thing that you can do is reason with him/her. The best thing to do in such situation is to leave your husband in some peace and quiet to take the time to gather up his thoughts and calm his anger the best way that he only knows how to.
In the meantime, you should make it clear that you will be there for him, waiting when he decides that he is calm enough to have a healthy, mature conversation with you.
Listen to him without interrupting him
When your husband finally makes the decision to come out and talk to you in a calm and safe environment, that is the time when you should let him lead the conversation. This is where you should make an effort to listen carefully to what your husband has to say. Let him lead the conversation, which will show him that you are aware of his emotions and that you respect him and them completely.
Just because the worse has probably passed, that tension between you two will continue to last until you two have the talk about the problem that has led to this situation in the first place.
Do not attack your partner
Once he starts talking, remind yourself to not attack your husband with any words or actions. Even if he has said something that is, in your opinion, wrong, do not make a mistake to attack him with words or actions. You will only create an even more difficult situation, and chances are that both of you will say a lot of hurtful things in the heat of the moment.
You would not like to create a bigger problem that may cause issues in your relationship that will haunt you every following day. Just take time to remind yourself to stay calm and not react with anger.
Set clear boundaries
It is a hard situation, and it can be hard for both of you if you or your husband use words that cause you pain. Unfortunately, there are so many bad words and names that partners use in a fight that only create cracks in their relationship without them realizing it. That is why it is essential to, while reminding yourself not to say any names or words that will hurt your husband, remind your husband not to use those sorts of words as well.
If your husband ends up calling you something that hurtful, do not be afraid to stand up and remind him that you are not to be treated that way. And after your husband has calmed down, you have had the talk, and he and you have both apologized, you should still remind him that it has caused you pain. This would remind your husband to not use those sorts of words in future fights.
Be honest and apologize
This might be the hardest thing that you will have to do. Although, in a healthy, mature relationship, honesty and admitting that you are wrong when you are is a must. Always stay honest, even if you think that your honesty will hurt your partner. Simply choose the right words that will not cause pain. After you have listened to what your partner has to say and you have expressed your opinion calmly, it is time to say sorry.
This is crucial if the whole problem was because of your dishonesty and mistake. Admitting that you are wrong and apologizing when needed to, will only make your relationship stronger and your husband will know that he has chosen a mature person to create a life with. Apologizing is not only necessary when you are wrong, we recommend apologizing even when your husband admits that he has been wrong in the situation. You should always apologize for the tension that was created due to the two of you saying things that you did not mean to say.
Conclusion
In conclusion, we remind you to stay cool headed, especially when your husband is the one with a hot head in the middle of a fight. Give them space to cool down, and later be honest and swallow your pride so that you can apologize. Perhaps you cannot control his anger, but you sure can control your actions and words and remind yourself to not cause any additional pain to both of you.
